Slow killers are the things we (choose to) do on a regular basis and over an extended period to those we love, those we work with and those we call our friends.
Some slow killers of relationships are things like systematic verbal or emotional abuse, passive-aggressive behaviour (E.g. giving someone the silent treatment, withholding affection\recognition\respect or love, dishing out criticism on a regular basis – to name a few).
In other words – it’s not the obvious things like physical abuse, alcoholism and adultery and all the other bad things that we expect to kill our relationships.
It is the stuff that we do to each other on a regular basis and out of habit – sometimes over many years – which make the recipient feel bad about themselves and eventually causes them to say: “Ok, I have had enough”.
These are the things we do that leave small dents on our relationships, which – over time – become bigger dents and eventually the ‘bodywork’ we leave behind becomes unrecognisable from the original. And then the relationship dies.
But there is one less obvious slow relationship killer, which we are all guilty of at some point in our lives.
And that is JUDGING someone.